What Changed in Her?

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I woke up this morning with these two questions in my message inbox from my little sister. If I received these questions from her two years ago or just two months ago. I would be concerned as to “what is wrong with her?”.

You see she is not the type to talk about emotions, she grew up very reserved, more conservative than me, an older soul than me for sure. And when I started studying psychology and speaking about emotions, trauma, the ego and shadow, & feelings 24/7, it would trigger everyone in my family including her. Although she was extremely patient, she would often say “Saadiah give us a break” or  the most common one “Stop being a coach!”.

But what changed this morning?

Here is the thing, it didn’t happen overnight. I stopped forcing her to work and heal herself. I brought back all the attention to myself. That gave her space to fully be present on her path and it’s started unfolding for her. I am glad that the teachings I have instilled in her, she is putting to use. As she needed help, she came to me. She had questions so she asked. 

You think you are doing this deep inner shadow work that feels so painful and lonely and no one cares or understands. But the truth is you working on yourself is changing the world. 

“The world is a huge cauldron and something big is cooking in it? We don’t know what yet. Everything we do, feel, or think is an ingredient in that mixture. We need to ask ourselves what we are adding to the cauldron. Are we adding resentments, animosities, anger, and violence? Or are we adding love and harmony?”

By working on myself, I have made space for everyone to work on themselves. By me focusing on healing my trauma, and taking responsibility for my healing; it taught my sister that she is important and that she needs to work/heal herself. You become a mirror with a great reflection. You become an inspiration for others. But it all starts with you. 

It starts on that day when you don’t feel safe in your own home.

It starts on that day when you feel like a burden on your family.

It starts on that day when you feel like no one is going to come save you. 

It starts on that day when you feel like Allah is not hearing you. 

It starts with you!

It starts within!

Then you reflect

As shiny as a diamond 

For all the others. 

Ps: If you want to know my answers to her questions. It will be in the next blog.